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　　标题：TheRealReasonWhyYouHaventHealedYourTraumaDepressionHeartbreak
　　作者：NatashaChe
　　原文链接：http：www。huffingtonpost。comnatashachetherealreasonwhyyouhb8346766。html
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　　Theprevailingpsychologicalwisdomofourtimetellsyouthatyourcurrentdysfunctionsareprobablyaresultofyourpastexperiences，e。g。，yourpainfulchildhood，yourstupidparents，yourabusivefirstlove，andthewars，famines，andhurricanesyouwereforcedbyfatetogothrough。Ifyouremetaphysicallyinclined，youmayevenbelievethatyourpresentpainhasitsrootsinapastlife，apastpastlife，apastpastpastlife。（Bytheway，aftertalkingtomanywhoclaimtohaverecoveredmemoriesfrompastlives，Icanassureyouthatnobodyonearthhaseverhadagreatlifeinthepast。SincetheresnothingnewundertheSun，itssafetoassumethatagreatlifewillnotexistinthefuture，either。Soyoucanstoplookingnow。）
　　Youweretoldthathealingfrompastpainswouldgetyouhappiness。Butifyourereadingthis，youprobablyhavebeenonthehealingpathforalongtime，undertheassumptionthatonceyouhealyourpast，youdfinallyfindfulfillmentandfreedom。ThatwashowIlookedatmylife，foralongtime。Iwentfromonehealingmodalitytoanother，onaquestfortheHolyGrailthatwouldbestowblisstoeternity。
　　Suchaquestisuseful，untilitisnot。Afteryearsofprofessionalcounseling，shamanicsessions，cleansingretreats，andchocolatecakefixes，Irealizedthatthehealingjourneysimplywouldnotendonitsown。Ifyoulookforthem，youcanalwaysfindtraumasinyourself，oldandnew，tobehealedandcleansed。Acompletelyhealedhumanisamythologicalconstruct。Andthequestforhealingcanbearatracethatiseasytogeton，buthardtostepoff。
　　Youcouldneverbefullyhealedbecausehealingisaconceptthatonlyexitsinaworldofdualitywhereexperiencesaredichotomizedintogoodandbad，rightandwrong，happyandsad。Lightcannotbeknownwithoutdarkness。Similarly，youwontbeabletodefinehealinginyourselfwithoutalsoidentifyingtraumainyourself。Aslongasyouliveinanarrativeofpersonalhistory，ofhowyoucametobethewayyouareandhowyourebeingfixedandimprovedfromastateofbrokenness，thestoryofyourhealingjourneywillcontinuejustliketimeextendstoinfinity。
　　Thisstoryistotallyvalidfromthehumanperspective。Entireindustriesarebuiltonsuchstories。ResearchinstitutesandPh。D。programsaresetuptorefinethisstory，totellitwitheverincreasingprecisionandnuance。Thisstoryhashelpedmostofus，atvariousstagesoflife，tomakesenseofourpast，overcomedifficulties，andstayhopefulaboutthefuture。Butatsomepoint，thestorystopsbeinghelpful，andinsteadbecomesahindrancetoyourultimatefreedom。
　　Sowhatisonetodo？Theanswer：Justgiveup。
　　Iknowwhatyourethinkingyoujustwastedfiveminutesofyourlifereadingthisuselessarticle。AmIreallytellingyoutogiveuponhealing？Yes，Iam。
　　Iwanttoremindyouthatnomatterhowrealtheyseem，trauma，depressionandheartbreakareideasconceivedbymen。Imagineyouareanalienbeingwhohasnoclueabouthowhumansbehave。Andsupposeyoucometotheearthforthefirsttimeandseeapersoncryingherheartoutallday。Wouldyouautomaticallyconcludethatsheneedstobefixedsomehow？No，youwouldnt。Becausenothingmakesyoulabeltearsasnegativeandsmilespositive。Evenifyoureabletoempathizewithhumansandfeelsadnessandjoy，youdsimplyexperiencethoseemotionsasdifferentphysicalsensations，withoutinterpretingtheminourusual，humanway。
　　Youcanhaveasimilarexperiencewithoutbeinganalien，ifyouallowyourselftodropdeepwithin，intotheprimalstateofbeingbeforeconceptsandstoriesarecreated。Inthisoriginstate，nothingisbrokenandthereforenothingneedstobehealed。Traumastopsbeingtrauma。Andyoudonthaveanyproblemtosolve。Anyagendatoimproveorprogressdisappears，becausenostateisbetterthananother。Whateversensationsandfeelingsyouexperiencearejustthattheysimplyexist。
　　Sincenothingisperceivedasnegativeorpositiveinthisstate，thereisnoneedtochasesomefeelingsandrunawayfromothers。Andwhenallfeelingsandthoughtsareallowedtobepresentaswhattheyare，theenergeticimprintsofyourpastexperiencesthathavebeentrappedunderdeeplayersofyoucouldfinallysurface。Becausewithouttheusualhumaninterpretations，youwouldnolongerfeeldestabilizedorthreatenedbythem。Andthoseimprintsthatnolongerserveyouarenowfreetoleavewithoutprompt，astheyarenotalignedwithyournaturalstateofwholenessandhealth。
　　Notethatthepassageoftimeisntrequiredinthisprocess。Onceyoudropintotheoriginstate，healingbecomesinstantaneous。
　　Nowyourethinking，Easyforyoutosay。HowamIsupposedtogetridofmyconceptsandstoriesexactly？Ifyoufeelfrustrated，confusedorincompetentaboutthis，good。Nowseeifyoucouldholdthefrustration，confusion，andfeelingofinadequacyinyouwithlovingacceptance。Toodifficult？Thensimplytryembracingthefactthatyourenotabletoembraceyourfrustration，confusionandincompetency。
　　Becausealthoughnowordscandescribethepathtotheoriginstate，itisacceptanceandnotresistancethatgetsyoucloser。Whenyourecommittedtoembracingthethoughtsandemotionsthatdoshowupinyouateverymoment，onedayyouwouldfindthatwhatshowsup。。。ispuremagic。