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　　标题：SixPositivelySimpleWaystomakePeopleLikeYou
　　source：positiveprovocations丨byZeenat
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　　friendlessordisliked。AsalibranandasmysuperintelligentDaddy’slittlegirl，thefewoutgoingandconversationalqualitiesIpossessedwereconstantlyinusehelpingmetobewell，Liked。But，asIgrewupandstartedunderstandinglifeandallitsintricacies，Icametoastartlingrealization。。noteveryone‘feels’likedorloved。NoticeIsaid，noteveryone‘feels’likedorloved。causeeveryoneislovedandlikedinreality，wejustdon’tacceptandloveourselvesenoughtoembracethatfact。
　　IgrewuplovingandreadingDaleCarnegie。Iamsoinfluencedbyhisbooks，thatIusehismethodsinmanyofmySeminarsandgroupcounselingsessions。Whenitcomestobooksaboutnetworking，buildingrelationshipsordealingwithpeople，myfavoriteandundisputedclassicis‘HowToWinFriendsandInfluencePeople’。DaleCarnegiewrotethebookin1936andithasbeenreadandputtogoodusebymillionsofpeoplesince。
　　Themostimperativeofrealizationsinthebookisthatalthoughsomepeoplearemoreextrovertedoraffable，dealingwithpeopleisalearnedskillthatanyonecanmaster。Believeme，IthoughtIhadthatdepartmentofbeinglikedandlovedcovered。tillIwasblownawaybyallthepositivelifesuggestionsinthisbook。
　　Thesecondsectionofthebookistitled，SixWaysToMakePeopleLikeYou。Thesearesimpleideasthatmakeahugedifference。ThesearetheonesI’mgoingtodiscussandsharewithyoutodayfrommyperspectiveofcourse：）Soheregoespeople。holdontoyourcoffeemugsandreadtobepositivelyblownawaytheyaresosimple，you’llwonderwhyyouhadn’tthoughtofthembefore。。：
　　SixPositivelySimpleWaystomakePeopleLikeYou
　　1）BeGenuinelyInterestedInOtherPeople
　　Inmyyearsofcounselinganddealingwithpeople，Ihaveseen，thatthewordthatpeoplesaymorethananyotheris‘I。Peoplelovelovelovetotalkaboutthemselves，theirlives，theirhobbies，theirfamilies，theirpassions，etcWhenyoubecomeinterestedinpeople，askquestionsandallowthemtotalk，theywillloveyouforit。
　　Verysimply：Justfocusonbeinginterestednotinteresting。Thereisabigdifference。Interestingisaboutyou，interestedisaboutthem。
　　2）Smile
　　Ilovetoflashsmilesatpassersbyandseewhethertheysmileback。Theyusuallydo：）Icanseehowastressedaurachangesjustwiththesimplesmile。Asmileisasimplegesturethatdoesn’tcostyoumoney，time，orenergybutitcanbrightensomeone’sday，changesthewayyoufeelandmakesyoumoreapproachable。
　　VerySimply：Smilingisattractiveandcontagious。Peoplearoundyoucan’thelpbutsmilewhentheyseeabigsmileonyourface。
　　3）RememberingandUsingPeople’sName
　　Itssaidthatthesweetestandmostimportantsoundinlanguageisthesoundofyourownname。
　　We’veallbeentherewhenyourecognizethepersonbutcan’tremembertheirname。It’sawkward，uncomforandsometimesembarrassing。WeoftenusetheexcusethatIamnotgoodwithnames，butifyouwanttomasterpeople，youneedtobegintoremembernames。
　　VerySimply：Developasystem，whenyoumeetsomeoneusetheirname3timesinconversationorwritetheirnamedowninanotebookwithsomenotesaboutthem。Figureoutwhatworksforyou。
　　4）BeAGoodListener
　　Mygrandfather（Nana）usedtotellthechatterboxmethat‘weareallgivenonemouthandtwoearsforareason’。Weneedtoencourageotherstotalkandthenlistentounderstand。
　　Listeningisanactiveprocess。Itismuchmorethanbeingsilent。Itinvolvesloveandempathy，whichistowalkinsomeone’sshoesandunderstanding，whichistheabilitytorelatewithoutjudgingorfixing。
　　VerySimply：Listeningisaskillthatisdevelopedwithpracticeandasyoumasterit，peoplewilllikeyoumoreandmore。
　　5）TalkToPeoplewithTheirInterestsinmind
　　Peopleloveitwhenyoucantalktothemintermsoftheirinterests。Theylovewhenyouareknowledgeableonsubjectstheyenjoyandcanhaveintelligentconversationaboutwhatmattersmosttothem。
　　Thatdoesn’tmeanthatyouhavetobeanexpertineverycategory，butbeingabletotalktopeopleintermsoftheirinterestsgoesalongway。Onewaytodothisistostudytopicsofinterestbeforemeetingwithpeople。Ifyouknowthatyourbusinesslunchdinneriswithahugefootballfan，thentakesometimetobrushuponyourknowledgeofthegame。Thissmallpointmaymakethebiggestdifferenceinhowthemeetingturnsout。
　　Ifyouhavepaidattentiontothefirstfivewaystomakepeoplelikeyou，youareprobablynoticingatrend。Eachofthepointsisfocusedontheotherperson。
　　Talkingintermsofotherpeople’sinterestisanotherwaytoputthemfirstandleaveagreatimpression。
　　6）MakePeopleFeelImportantButDoItSincerely
　　Eachpersonisdifferentandmakingpeoplefeelimportantcanbedoneinamyriadofways。Youcangiveacompliment，remembertheirbirthdayoraspecialoccasion，recognizethemfortheirskillsandcontributionorgivethemagift。
　　Thekeyistomakesureyoudoitsincerely。Yourmotivesmustbepure。Thisisnotaboutgivingtoget，itisaboutgivingbecauseyougenuinelycare。Peoplecanreadthroughindividualswhoarefakeandonlyinitforthemselves。Ifyouaregoingtocomplimentsomeone，makeitsincere。Lookatthegoodinpeopleandpointthatout。
　　Ifyouteachamananything，hewillneverlearn。BernardShaw
　　Learningisanactiveprocess。Welearnbydoing。So，ifyoudesiretomastertheprinciplesyouarereading，dosomethingaboutthem。Applythesewaysateveryopportunity。Ifyoudon’tyouwillforgetthemquickly。Onlyknowledgethatisusedsticksinyourmind。
　　AsaGirlGuideIwastaughttoleaveacampsitebetterthanbeforeIgotthere。Ithinkthesameprincipleappliestopeople。
　　Leaveeverypersonbetterforhavingmetyou。Letthemcelebratethemeetingofheartsthathashappenedonaccountofthemeeting。Whenyougiveloveselflessly，youWILLgetitbacktenfoldandthatistheLawoftheUniverse。Believeit！Embraceit！Liveit！Celebrateit！