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　　标题：5TipsforBecomingaMoreConfidentPublicSpeaker
　　作者：AVERILLINN
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　　Iusedtobeterrifiedofpublicspeaking。
　　Inmymid20s，Iwasinvolvedwiththeresearchanddevelopmentteamatmywork，andwassupposedtoattendconferencestopresenttheresearchIwasinvolvedin。ButthethoughtofstandingupinfrontofsomanypeopleandspeakingcausedmesomuchanxietythatIcouldn’tgo。Whiletherestoftheteamflewoffaroundthecountry，Istayedbackattheoffice。Notagoodlook，andnotagoodcareermove。
　　Fastforwardeightyearslater，andInowspeakinfrontofgroupsallthetime。I’llberealI’mnot100calmrightbeforeIdopublicspeakingthesedays，buttheamountofnervousnessIfeelismanageableenoughthatIcanstillgetupanddoit。Sowhatchanged？
　　Mostimportantly：Idesensitizedslowly，andconsistently。
　　Inmynextjob，theentirerolerevolvedaroundspeakinginfrontofsmallgroupsofuptoteneverysingledaydeliveringcognitivebehaviortherapygroupprogrammes。TherewasnomagicthatallowedmetodoitIwasstillextremelynervousatfirst，butwantingthejobgavemethemotivationtotry。
　　Here’sthedealifyouwanttomakeprogresswithyourpublicspeakingconfidence，youcan’twaituntilyoufeelmoreconfidentbeforeyoustart。Theconfidencewillcomeafterwards。Findanopportunitytospeaktogroupsregularly，startingwithasmallergroupandworkingyourwayup。Isthereanavenueforyoutopresentareportatyourweeklyteammeeting？Deliversometrainingtonewemployees？Speaktogroupsofstudentsaboutyourworkplace？
　　Ilearnedthatnothingterriblehappened。
　　Thenextmostimportantthingwasthiswithtimeandexperience，Idiscoveredthatnothingterriblehappened。EvenifIhadamindblankormuddledmywordsonoccasion，Iwasabletokeepgoing，Ididn’tdie，anditreallydidn’tmatterthenextday。Thistaughtmybrainthatitisn’tnecessarytogetsoanxiousbeforeIhavetospeakbecausethelikelihoodoftotalannihilationisreallyprettysmallbutthisdoesn’tworkonjustanintellectuallevel。Youcantellyourselfthere’snothingtobeafraidof，orimaginetheaudienceintheirunderwear，oranyofthoseusualpublicspeakingtricks，butyourbrainwon’tfallforthat。Likeanyphobia，youwillonlylearntobelessafraidwhenyourepeatedlyexperiencethefearedsituationwithoutsomethingbadhappening。Combinedwithspeakingregularly，thislearningreducedtheamountofanxietyIexperienceddramaticallyovertime。
　　Ifoundoutthateveryonegetsnervous。
　　Itdoesn’tmatterhowlongyou’vebeendoingit，nearlyeveryonefeelsthosenervesbeforehavingtospeakinfrontofothers。It’sanormal，naturalfeartobeconcernedabouthowwearegoingtocomeacrosstoothers。Speakinginfrontofothersopensusuptojudgment，soofcoursewefeelvulnerable。Thegreatthingis，youcanfeelnervous，anddoitanyway。That’swhateveryoneelseisdoing！Yourfeelingsdon’thavetohavethefinalsayinyouractions。
　　Idiscoveredthatmynervesdon’tshowasmuchasIfeelthem。
　　Inmostinstances，weappearfarlessanxioustoothersthanwefeel。Ouroutsidesrarelymatchourinsides。Considerpoint3mostpeopleyouhaveseenspeakwerefeelingnervous，butdidyouactuallyseeit？Usuallynot，thoughoccasionallythere’sashakyhandorawobblyvoice。Butevenifwenoticethoselittletrembles，it’snotthemainthingsthatstandsouttous。We’retheretofocusonandprocesswhateverinformationwearereceiving，notworryabouthowthespeakerlooksorfeels。
　　IexperiencedthatmynervesdecreasedasIwasspeaking。
　　Mynervesbeforepublicspeakingusuallyfollowasharpbellcurve，evennow。Uptoaboutfiveminutesbeforehand，Ifeelabsolutelyfine。IthinkthatI’mgettingawaywithitthistimeI’mnotgoingtobenervous！I’mfinallyoverit！Then，fiveminutesbeforeIhavetospeak，thenerveskickin。TheypeakrightasIstandup。Andthenmagically，afteraminuteortwooftalking，theystarttodecrease。MyfocusshiftsfrommyselfandmybutterfliestothemessageIamtryingtogetacross。
　　Thetakehomemessageisthis：Ifyouwanttobuildyourconfidenceinpublicspeaking，youhavetogooutanddosome。Youwillbenervous，becauseeveryoneis。Itwillgetbetterthemoreyoudoitthough，soacceptingthisandgettingthroughtheinitialnervewrackingtalkswillsendyouonthewaytospeakingmorecomfortablyintime。
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