Being，shy

　　beingshy
　　nearlyeveryoneisshyinsomeways。shypeopleareoverconcerned（担心的）withtheirownappearanceandactions。worrisome（令人烦恼的）thoughtsoftenswirl（打旋）intheirminds：whatkindofimpression（印象）amimaking？dotheylikeme？doisoundstupid？ifshynessismakingyouuncomfortable，itmaybetimeforafewlessonsinselfconfidence。shynesscanbeovercomewithdetermined（已下决心的）andpatienteffortsinbuildingselfconfidence。youcanbuildyourconfidencebyfollowingsomesuggestions。
　　first，makedecisionnottoholdbackinconversation。whatyouhavetosayisjustasimportantaswhatotherpeoplesay。anddontturndownpartyinvitations（邀请）justbecauseofyourshyness。
　　second，prepareyourselfforbeingwithothersingroups。makealistofthegoodqualitiesyouhave。thenmakealistofideas，experiences，andskillsyouwouldliketosharewithotherpeople。thinkaboutwhatyouwouldliketosayinadvance（先行的）。thensayit。
　　third，ifyoustartfeelingselfconscious（不自然的）ingroup，takeadeepbreathandfocusyourattentiononotherpeople。remember，youarenotalone。otherpeopleareconcerned（担心的）aboutdisappointments（失望）。profit（有利）themaslessonsinsteadoffrustration（frustration）。
　　aseachofusisaninpidual，webehaveinourownpersonalways。thebetterweunderstandourselves，theeasieritbecometoliveuptoourfullpotential。nooneevergetsoverbeingshycompletely，butmostpeopledolearntolivewiththeirshyness。evenentertainers（请客者）admitthattheyoftenfeelshy。theyworkatfightingtheirshyfeelingsotheycanfacethecamerasandthepublic。
　　justmakingtheefforttocontrolshynesscanhavemanyrewards（报答）。butperhapsthebestreasontofightshynessistogiveotherpeopleachancetoknowmoreaboutyou。